This is a question I have asked myself many times during my life and interestingly it has always been when life has thrown me a curveball. This week I received another unexpected curveball. There are serious concerns about the health of my baby that I am carrying.
"Why me?" Two short yet very powerful words that if not answered can spin around in your head causing havoc. "Why me?" can fuel unproductive emotions such as resentment, envy and self-pity. It can also lead you to a place of feeling stuck and not sure where to turn to next.
I have come to learn that "Why me?" isn't a question easily answered, but that everything does happen for a reason.
"When life puts you in tough situation, don't say "Why me?", say "Try me" - Unknown
I have found that the faster I can move to acceptance, the quicker I can become unstuck, and the less troubled I am by the "Why me?" question.
Acceptance is a person's assent to the reality of a situation, recognising a process or condition (often a negative or uncomfortable situation) without attempting to change it or protest it.
It takes a huge amount of fortitude and motivation to accept what is, especially when you don’t like the hand you have been given. Then, choosing to respond and act as best you possibly can with the circumstances you find yourself in, and with the resources at your disposal, to mitigate, heal, redirect and change what can be changed.
It is also important to remind yourself…I didn’t cause it, I can’t control it, and I can’t cure it.